When my husband left Serbia, he was a nineteen-year-old soldier who had no business nor desire to be in the Bosnian war. He fled with no money, family or prospects to help him; what he did have was the kind of desperate motivation necessary to make something of himself in a new land.
As he worked waiting tables throughout Europe, the Serb often read copies of the Wall Street Journal that had been discarded by businessmen. He didn’t even know what a credit card was before leaving Serbia yet the stock market fascinated him. He would struggle to make sense of the financial jargon while dreaming of one day inhabiting that world.
He arrived in Calgary, Alberta as a landed immigrant on the coldest day in forty-seven years. Having grown up in a mild climate, he feared that the human body (specifically, his body) couldn’t possibly tolerate such extreme temperatures. From that day onward, he vowed to wear two pairs of long johns from October through March, which he did for five years—even under a suit.
We met through a mutual friend a year after the Serb came to Canada, when he was working at a warehouse to put himself through university. Despite coming from completely different backgrounds and cultures (my only foreign travel at that point involved a well-funded, year-long backpacking trip through Australia) there was a spark between us (plus, I’ve always been a sucker for an accent).
At the time, I had a corporate job, nice car and fantastic apartment. When we moved in together two years later, he showed up with all of his belongings in a single grocery bag. The Serb’s first “career” job was answering phones in a banking call centre making minimum wage—he was hired two days before we were married—but for him it was a dream job.
Following his citizenship ceremony my husband received his Canadian passport, three days before we left to elope in the Cook Islands. I remember him turning it over in his hands as he explained to me that a Canadian passport was one of the most coveted and respected in the world.
A year after we married, the Serb suggested moving across the country to Toronto. He felt it would offer more professional opportunities for him. Although I left a well-paying job, my friends and all of my family, I didn’t hesitate: I knew that after all he’d been through, the Serb would find a way to succeed. And I was right.
Since moving twelve years ago, he has worked as a stockbroker, trader and business owner. Most of these positions didn’t even exist until he met with decision-makers and persuaded them to give him a shot. Through it all, the Serb has instilled in our children an appreciation for their heritage as well as an understanding of how lucky they are to live where they do.
Despite his meager beginnings, my husband always had big dreams and he never let circumstances get in the way. He is confident that no other country in the world could have offered him the success and opportunities that he’s found here. By living in Canada, my husband learned that—with enough hard work—anything is possible.
And I learned from him what it truly means to be Canadian.
Happy belated Canada Day and happy Independence Day. This isn’t new, but it never gets old:




I LOVE and read your blog daily but this is my first time commenting. This post brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing!
Hiya Lisa – thanks so much for commenting and your kind words. My Serb is pretty special
Hi Lori~ Thanks for sharing this lovely story with us – it was simply a great romance, which I always love reading!
Thanks for taking the time to comment, Jennifer!
Wow, Lori, wow.
Love that story. A romance with a man and a country.
Nicely done, my Calgarian friend.
Is it ok that I’m crushin on your Serb a little bit.
I do love a self made man AND an accent.
Honey, nobody could fault your great taste
FYI, the Serb is loooooving these comments!
What a lovely story! With all the negativity we are hit with daily, this was refreshing!
Thanks, Kelli!
yup – i’m weeping. Love the Serb….love you guys!
Awww – let’s celebrate the love with some M.E.A.T. tomorrow!!!
I have been reading your blog for awhile but I think that this is my favourite post. The image of your Serb with his new Canadian passport and his words, is simply beautiful. Makes me very proud to be a Canadian!
Thank you so much for letting me know!
Love this tribute to the Serb (and Canada. And beavers).
Very inspiring and sweet, plus TWO pairs of long johns? that’s just plain SMART.
(I don’t like to be cold, either.)
Why am I not surprised that it was you who brought up the beavers
He’s down to one pair at a time these days…
Can we trade for a day or two? Maybe twelve hours? I’m talkin’ about the hubby and the country!
what a wonderful love letter to the Serb. He really does rock.
Thanks, Lisa. Foreign dudes are lovely, aren’t they
Lori, You so made me cry! I loved it. It was especially close to my heart since both, my husband and I, are immigrants from another country and we came to love Canada a lot.
Thank you
Thank you, Dominika. I know that many newcomers to Canada have similar harrowing stories. It’s amazing to me how courageous you all are.
Ms. Dyan: I had NO idea you were Canadian.
And this post honoring your husband?
I am humbled, in knowing you.
I should have done my homework.
When I featured you, I had NO idea of the stuff you were made of.
I have learned a lesson here.
I am humbled.
Alexandra – you are the nicest woman I’ve ever met (cyber or otherwise). Thank you for the kindness and we Canucks are a modest bunch, so it’s not something you should have known
p.s. when are we emailing each other about our oldest sons?