Every December for the past 13 years the Serb asks me, “When is Christmas?” He’s not joking, nor is he wondering if it falls on a Wednesday. My commie husband needs reminding that Christmas is always on December 25th. I also send him a marital memo each April regarding my upcoming birthday and Mother’s Day in May. And on January 1, 2000 we got hitched, in part to ensure he would never forget our anniversary (or how many years we’ve been married).
My point being, small details like dates aren’t really his thing. Except Father’s Day.
Just like I can find a bathroom in any mall despite my innate lack of direction, the Serb instinctively knows when Father’s Day is coming. I think he enjoys this day even more than his birthday, because it acknowledges more than just being born; Father’s Day celebrates his role as a dad.
And my husband is the dream dad.
Because of my husband, my daughter will grow up knowing that she is capable and worthy. She will recognize what real love is—respectful, joyful, playful—and she will settle for nothing less.
Because of my husband, my son will know that a real man is generous with his time and feelings. That integrity, loyalty and good manners are the epitome of cool. That being true to oneself is the greatest truth.
Because of my husband, I know that I am loved because of my shortcomings. He inspires me to be a better parent, partner and person. And I will always know, and never take for granted, that when it comes to getting lucky in love, I won the lottery.
Happy Father’s Day
Volim te





This rocked.
And it inspired me to try to put my martial strife aside long enough to make sure the kids let their dad know how much he means to them and all that he does right.
I’ve been keeping up on your strife via your blog – sending you loving vibes…
He does remember their birthday’s right?
He DOES! It’s very annoying….
What a beautiful post…and you are lucky. I’m all pissed at my hubby right now, so anything more I have to say will only make me sound like Oscar the Grouch.
And just so you know, everytime I drive by VJs, I think of you. Seriously. It’s getting kind of freaky.
I look forward to the day we drive by VJs together…and go stuff our faces!
*tears*
At what you have, at what I missed.
xo
I missed it too (just so grateful to have it vicariously through my kids)
You just made me realize the difference between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day around here:
On Mother’s Day I kind of want to be queen for a day but on Father’s Day, Bill just wants to play with the kids.
(So now I feel like a bit of an asshole. But I married a good man, too. So there’s that.)
XO
Oh, so sweet!
I like that he’s such a great dad and makes you feel like you’re a better person. That’s multi-tasking.
I want a Serb…. I’m so happy you guys found each other!
i totally relate to what Julie Gardner said. (and yes, you indeed won the lottery)
XOXOXOXO
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